EP 7 // Living with Fear & Shame: 4 Things to Embrace Them

WORKSHEET (PDF) ATTACHED TO EPISODEMerry Christmas, Happy Holidays friends!! I am so grateful that you are here & I pray that you get some FUEL for your day! If you love today's episode, share with someone you know needs to hear it & leave a review for me! I love to hear what you guys feel and think.  Sister friend, are you in a place in life right now where you are feeling stuck? Maybe it’s between a rock and a hard place, maybe it’s just stuck between the past and the future, maybe it’s stuck in a toxic relationship, in a toxic work environment & you just don;t know how to get unstuck. Or if you’re even worth getting unstuck.  The truth I want you to know today is that you are not broken home girl, a pattern that you have is. That’s it. The good news? YOU CAN FIX IT. Let me tell you about where I am at right now, and a little bit about the path that got me here & the realization i had this week that I think could really help you if you are feeling….well scared and stuck and fed up with feeling like that. Fear is a good thing.Failure is not the enemy. Living a life in autopilot, in mediocrity is the enemy. Failure, just like fear, is meant to teach you something. Fear is an emotion, although unpleasant, it can warn you about danger that could be getting ready to happen or is happening around you.  But what if the thing you are fearing is not real? What if that fear, that emotion, is actually being triggered by something, a story, you have created yourself? RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Worksheet so you can journal out the questions on your timeFear Is My Homeboy by Judi Holler The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene BrownWork It Out by Mel Robbins  So home girrrl, let’s do the hard work to FUEL our faith over our fear, so you can free your soul. And if you need someone to help you shine the light on your own fears, hit me on Instagram or in my email friend.January is right around the corner, in the Fit Club we are doing a little countdown to 2021 by reflecting on this year with grateful hearts & through the eyes of hope. Here’s my reflection:In 2020, I lost a lot of people from family members and friends to network connections I enjoyed having. From that though, I gained deeper relationships with family and friends that are still around. My husband and I are learning how to set boundaries for our marriage and for the family that we created, not all of our immediate family. Our intimacy has reached a new level. 2020 was the year I learned my triggers and learned my biggest fears. That was heavy and hard, but that means I gained priceless wisdom. In 2020, I have learned to trust God no matter what. I have given more control over to Him this year than ever before. I figured out that activism for oppressed people in our country is a big passion of mine, and likely will be apart of my voice going forward no matter what w o r k I am doing otherwise. I am not broken. The way I was speaking to myself was. I have/had patterns of self sabotaging that were broken. I learned in 2020 that they aren’t me. Right now on December 28th 2020, I am finding myself wanting to drink significantly less. I am ready to call myself out for self-sabotaging behaviors, put a serious plan together to serve as many women as I can from fear, shame, trauma, and mediocrity with this podcast, with the fit club, with any devotionals/books/groups/group coaching/physical resources/community service projects that I can come up with & bring to life.This year I found the real, authentic me under my shame, under my fear, under my trauma for the first time since 2009, and it’s been hard and messy, but today as I am typing this out. I am proud.I am excited. And I know the best has yet to come.What did you learn or gain this year? What are you proud of?  Remember friend, growing can feel a lot like breaking at first. So if this year was a planting year for you too, you are not alone. Our blooming season is coming.