69. Guy Winch: How to Heal from a Heartbreak
Do you know that loneliness kills more people than smoking and obesity? In this episode of HYDRATE, Psychologist Guy Winch takes us deeper into the power of emotional intelligence and why it's intertwined with our physical health. We discuss how to deal with romantic rejection, when loneliness becomes a health risk, and how to raise emotionally intelligent kids. We're evolutionarily wired to survive and procreate, not to seek happiness. So, it takes great effort to establish deep human connections and be vulnerable, but it can be learned! Guy and I share tips on how to rekindle our relationship (romantic or not) with someone, when to end it, and how to heal from its ending. Take note: you can't fix a relationship by yourself. I know that to be true after trying to save a 13-year marriage on my own. How do we survive a heartbreak without losing our self-worth? Guy Winch, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist, keynote speaker, and author who has published three books, “Emotional First Aid,” “How to Fix A Broken Heart,” and “The Squeaky Wheel,” which have been translated into 27 languages. His TED talks on emotional health have been viewed over 26 million times. For the last two decades, Guy has worked with individuals, couples, and families in his private practice in Manhattan. What we discuss… 2:00 – What is emotional intelligence? 6:00 – Relationships depend on these 2 Things 10:00 – Why emotional health should be taught in school 14:00 – People who are chronically lonely die sooner 18:00 – Why do we feel disconnected from our partner or friends? 21:00 – How to reconnect with important people in your life: Tip #1: Remember the last good time you had with them. Tip #2: Take a leap of faith – REACH OUT. 23:00 – How can parents raise emotionally intelligent kids? 33:50 – Tips to dealing with romantic rejections or relationship conflicts: Tip #1: Accept that you’re not a right match at the right time. Tip #2: Don't mindread – ASK what your partner needs. 44:30 – Why the first stages of relationships are the most crucial Learn more from Guy Winch: Website: https://guywinch.com Instagram: @guywinch Related Links: Guy’s Books: https://www.guywinch.com/books/ “Dear Therapists” podcast: https://www.guywinch.com/podcast/ Guy’s TED talks: https://www.ted.com/speakers/guy_winch