180: How to get your children to stop fighting

If there’s one topic that never fails to rile parents up, it’s sibling fighting. Why does it affect us so much?  (There are two main reasons.) Why is this happening, and what can we do about it?  There are two main reasons, and one strategy to use with each reason. That’s it! There are not an infinite number of reasons why this is happening, or an infinite number of things to try to get it to stop. This episode will help you to identify the cause of the fighting, and how to make it stop. Sound too good to be true?  It isn’t.  Check out what parents have said about the workshop and sign up:Setting Loving (& Effective!) LimitsDo you have a child aged 1 - 10? Are they resisting, ignoring you, and talking back at every request you make? Do you often feel frustrated, annoyed, and even angry with them? Are you desperate for their cooperation - but don't know how to get it? If your children are constantly testing limits, the Setting Loving (& Effective!) Limits workshop is for you. Go from constant struggles and nagging to a new sense of calm & collaboration. I will teach you how to set limits, but we'll also go way beyond that to learn how to set fewer limits than you ever thought possible. Sign up for the Setting Loving (& Effective!) Limits workshop.It’s available in two different forms: Mid-May to Mid-March each year: Take the course at your own pace Mid-March to Mid-May each year: Sign up and take the course with my support in early May!Click the banner to learn more. Jump to highlights:02:07 Challenges of having multiple children03:39 How parents' reactions to their children's fighting can be influenced by their own past experiences with their siblings.07:00 The need to make pause before reacting to a child’s behavior07:52 Understanding the causes of siblings fight08:34 A fictitious story about a sibling fight to show two possible scenarios that may result from two opposing reactions from a parent10:40 Scenario 1: Parent explodes and blames one child as aggressor during sibling fight12:10 Scenario 2: Parent makes a pause, remains calm, does not blame anyone15:00 Importance of having an empathetic discussion with your children20:45 The struggles of Adrianna and Tim began when a new child was added to the family.24:46 How Parenting Membership help Adrianna and Tim25:54 Adrianna shares how bodhi shows his empathy towards her sister27:35 How adding a sibling rocks an older child’s world28:42 What are some ways to support our older child in managing challenging emotions so that they continue to feel valued and loved by us.31:24 Sibling fight as a child’s unskillful strategy to getting their needs met33:55 Figuring out the commonly unmet needs of our children35:05 The answer to a child’s unmet needs:  Spend 1:1 time with them36:25 The importance of letting the child direct your ‘special time’37:48 Why parents shouldn’t treat all their children in the same way39:16 Adrianna’s reflections [accordion][accordion-item title="Click here to read the full transcript"] Kelly Peterson 00:03Hi, this is Kelly Peterson from Chicago, Illinois. There's no other resource out there quite like Your Parenting Mojo, which doesn't just tell you about the latest scientific research on parenting and child development, but puts