The Real Reason Other People's Boundaries Make Us Cross

When someone else sets boundaries, do you feel able to do the same, or do you resent their ability to say no? Often, our anger towards others' boundaries comes from our own unmet needs and desires, and what presents itself as resentment is actually envy.Guilt, shame, and fear often prevent us from expressing our own needs, which just compounds those negative emotions. Without shifting our mindset, we can end up adopting a victim mindset and feeling even more trapped.In this quick dip episode, Rachel describes how we can identify our underlying needs, find ways to express them, and take small, practical steps towards getting what we want, even if it feels unattainable.Listen to this episode toLearn how to navigate boundaries and handle feelings of resentment when others say no to you.Understand the difference between anger and envy, and how envy can reveal what you truly want.Pick up strategies for identifying your own needs, expressing them to others, and finding ways to meet them.Episode highlights[00:02:12] Envy[00:05:47] What is your underlying need?[00:06:43] What happens when we make ourselves the victim[00:07:55] Questions to ask yourself[00:08:54] What is stopping you from meeting your needs?[00:10:01] If you could wave a magic wand[00:11:40] Expressing your needs to othersResourcesTHRIVE Weekly PlannerWhy Can’t I Say No – Episode 163How to Use Power Language to Keep Your Boundaries Strong – Episode 179How to Say No and Deal with Pushback – Episode 125, with Annie HanekomAtlas of the Heart: Mapping Meaningful Connection and the Language of Human Experience, by Brené BrownDownload the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.Enjoyed this episode?Write a review and share this with your friends.Connect with RachelHave any questions? Contact Rachel through these platforms:LinkedIn: @Dr-Rachel-MorrisTwitter: @DrRachelMorrisEmail: [email protected] out more about our trainingMentioned in this episode:🛟 Download Our New "Get Your Life Back" CourseWake up excited to go to work, with enough time and headspace to get the important stuff done AND enjoy your life.

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The podcast for GPs, hospital doctors and other professionals in high-stakes, high-stress jobs who want to thrive rather than just survive. You studied for years, you’re really good at what you do but you’ve noticed that you’re starting to feel overwhelmed, overworked and under-resourced. You may be comparing yourself to a frog in boiling water - the heat has built up so slowly that you haven’t noticed the extra-long days becoming the norm. You may feel on the edge and trapped in the very job that you’ve spent years working towards. Here’s the problem, frogs only have two choices; stay and be boiled alive, or jump out of the pan. The good news is that you are not a frog. You have many more choices than you think you do. You don’t have to quit, and nor should stress and burnout be inevitable. It is possible to be master of your own destiny, to craft your work life and career so that you can thrive even in the most difficult of situations. There are simple changes you can make which will make a huge difference to your stress levels and help you enjoy life again. Your host is Dr Rachel Morris, GP turned Executive Coach and Specialist in Resilience at Work who knows what it’s like to feel like an exhausted frog. In the podcast, she’ll be talking to friends, colleagues and experts all who have an interesting take on resilience for clever people in high-stakes, high-stress jobs so that together you can take back control to beat stress and burnout, survive and thrive.