Should I Stay or Should I Go? with Corrina Gordon-Barnes

Corrina Gordon-Barnes joins us to share how to better relationships and take control and stay in your zone of power. She explains how to make a good decision by questioning your thoughts and assumptions.Highlights[04:42] Corrina’s Coaching JourneyFor 16 years, Corrina has been coaching and helping people find what they wanted to do.Our amygdala doesn’t just function as a threat detection system; it also seeks connection and belonging.Because we want to fit in, we sometimes do things we don’t want to do or stay in toxic relationships.[09:07] How to Better RelationshipsFirst, be compassionate with anybody caught in the dilemma of choosing between staying or leaving.Corrina also discourages asking others about their opinion. Instead of listing pros and cons, list down all your judgments or complaints about the thing you're thinking of leaving. Then, make another list of all of your fears about leaving.[18:53] Staying in Your Zone of Power Rather than denying reality, it's more empowering to accept it as it is and to focus on what you can control. What's in your zone of power often takes vulnerability and courage.[24:00] Questioning ThoughtsFirst, have compassion for your predicament. Then list your reasons, complaints and fears about the situation.With more varying evidence, you would understand your problem from a more multidimensional perspective and learn how to better relationships. [29:22] About Acceptance and Why People StayPeople tend to remain in their jobs or romantic relationships when they've learned to accept and stay in their zone of power.The things that are ours to do require courage, and the things that are other people's involve acceptance.[44:30] Making Choices in our Zone of PowerWhen you stay firm in your zone of power, you stay authentic and truthful to yourself.Think of a courageous conversation or action that you can do to reframe the problem at hand.[51:32] Top 3 Tips for Deciding Whether to Stay or LeaveFirst, be compassionate with yourself that you’re in that difficult position.Second, list your complaints and fears, then recognise that they're thoughts that aren't unquestionable.Lastly, verify your thoughts, and identify the things you can do that are within your zone of power. These include acceptance and having the courage to make changes. Enjoyed This Podcast?Write a review and share this with your friends.Sign up for a FREE workbook.Join the Shapes Collective Facebook group.Find out more about our training here.Email Rachel or reach her on LinkedIn or Twitter.Podcast LinksCheck out the Permission to Thrive CPD membership for doctors!E32: How to take control of your thoughts with Corrina Gordon-Barnes

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The podcast for GPs, hospital doctors and other professionals in high-stakes, high-stress jobs who want to thrive rather than just survive. You studied for years, you’re really good at what you do but you’ve noticed that you’re starting to feel overwhelmed, overworked and under-resourced. You may be comparing yourself to a frog in boiling water - the heat has built up so slowly that you haven’t noticed the extra-long days becoming the norm. You may feel on the edge and trapped in the very job that you’ve spent years working towards. Here’s the problem, frogs only have two choices; stay and be boiled alive, or jump out of the pan. The good news is that you are not a frog. You have many more choices than you think you do. You don’t have to quit, and nor should stress and burnout be inevitable. It is possible to be master of your own destiny, to craft your work life and career so that you can thrive even in the most difficult of situations. There are simple changes you can make which will make a huge difference to your stress levels and help you enjoy life again. Your host is Dr Rachel Morris, GP turned Executive Coach and Specialist in Resilience at Work who knows what it’s like to feel like an exhausted frog. In the podcast, she’ll be talking to friends, colleagues and experts all who have an interesting take on resilience for clever people in high-stakes, high-stress jobs so that together you can take back control to beat stress and burnout, survive and thrive.