Why You've Got to Face the Truth, Even When It Sucks | Sara Kuburic on Women of Impact

Best known as the “Millennial Therapist”, Sara Kuburic has built quite an online following by posting hard truths in ways that allow people to actually accept and learn from them. Needless to say, that balancing act requires an unusual combination of a strong moral center, a non-judgmental attitude, and a whole lot of empathy. Thankfully, she brings all of those qualities to this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu. Lisa and Sara discuss self-sabotage, self-awareness and personal growth. They talk about how to give and receive hard truths, why toxic positivity is so insidiously harmful, and the reasons why we judge ourselves and others. This episode is brought to you by: Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT  Apollo: Get 15% off your purchase at https://apolloneuro.com/woi/ SHOW NOTES:  Why do we self-sabotage, and what constitutes self-sabotage? [2:03] How to deal with the desire for instant gratification [4:10] Hard truths don’t have to be harsh truths, but a lot of suffering comes from avoiding truth [10:48] If you find yourself resisting a hard truth, ask what you need to be open to that truth [11:57] When is it our place to tell someone a hard truth, and when is it not? [14:00] Sara explains why we avoid believing people when they tell us who they are [16:14] Sara talks about why you might seek relationships with emotionally unavailable people [21:08] Sara and Lisa discuss why taking responsibility hurts your ego at first [23:01] Judgment also comes from a lack of understanding or real moral conflicts [29:25] Sara describes what moral injury is, and how it relates to infidelity [31:36] Lisa and Sara discuss how deeply personal morality is [33:59] Lisa asks why people invalidate themselves so much, and Sara discusses toxic positivity [35:58] Lisa and Sara discuss asking permission to give someone advice or truth [45:06] Sara says her superpower is adaptability [46:39]  FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh Y FOLLOW SARAH: WEBSITE: sara-kuburic.com/ INSTAGRAM: https://bit.ly/2A2Nig8 FACEBOOK: https://bit.ly/2V81XOg TWITTER: https://bit.ly/3i2kfKT  Are You Ready for EXTRA Impact? Calling all Badasses!! If you really want to level up your confidence game, check out the WOMEN OF IMPACT SUBSCRIPTION, specially designed to turn you into the badass you were born to be!  Women of EXTRA Impact Subscription Benefits: New episodes delivered ad-free Exclusive access to listen to Women of Impact round table discussions, weekly motivation, previously unreleased episodes, and more!  Subscriber-only access to an additional 4 podcasts with hundreds of archived Women of Impact episodes, meticulously curated into themed playlists, and updated weekly. Looking to boost your confidence? Check out the Get Confident playlist.  Want to repair and heal your relationships? Start with Love Lab.  Curious about your health? We’ve got you covered in Health Hub.  And of course, weekly boosts of mini-motivation from Lisa herself that'll have you strutting through life with your head held high on the Badass Boosts playlist  Don't settle for mediocrity when you can be extraordinary! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/457ebrP Subscribe on all other platforms (Google Podcasts, Spotify, Castro, Downcast, Overcast, Pocket Casts, Podcast Addict, Podcast Republic, Podkicker, and more) : https://impacttheorynetwork.supercast.com/