Tips To Being Likeable and Confident in Video Chats and Zoom Calls | Vanessa Van Edwards on Women of Impact

Vanessa Van Edwards, professional investigator into the science of human behavior, used to try so hard to be someone she wasn’t. Thankfully, she got tired of pretending, and decided to embrace her real self. And now she devotes her time and energy to helping others present their own authentic selves in the most likeable and powerful way. On this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Vanessa Van Edwards explains the best way to deal with video calls, job interviews, and even first dates. Those best practices include some surprising insights, including reasons why you might want to wear perfume and high heels in a video call interview, why you should use a real background instead of a virtual one, and why it’s better to reveal your inadequacies and insecurities sooner rather than later. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory Planner: amazon.com/shops/impacttheory  Better Help: Get 10% off your first month at betterhelp.com/womenofimpact and use discount code WOMENOFIMPACT  Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com SHOW NOTES:  Vanessa spent about a decade trying to fake it, and then she got tired of it [2:04] There’s actually more cognitive load on a video call than in real life [4:02] The background people see behind you in a video call says a lot about you [8:33] Interviewers are doing tons of interviews now, and they’re tired of conformity [10:52] Your first impressions now include your visual background along with facial expressions [13:30] How formally should you dress for a video call? Should you wear perfume? [15:25] Vanessa explains why you should quickly reveal your secrets on dates or interviews [19:38] Vanessa explains why even a 1.2 second delay causes people to like you less [21:20] Vanessa discusses why in work calls you should show some of your upper body [26:03] Vanessa describes the importance of hand gestures, and talks about how to use them [27:06] We now have a brief window where we can create our own rules for dating [29:40] You can have fun with video calls in ways that wouldn’t be possible in real life [33:04] Vanessa discusses what the future holds for Zoom calls and in-person meetings [37:10]  FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh FOLLOW VANESSA:  WEBSITE: scienceofpeople.com/  INSTAGRAM: instagram.com/vvanedwards/ FACEBOOK: facebook.com/vvanedwards/ TWITTER: twitter.com/vvanedwards Are You Ready for EXTRA Impact? Calling all Badasses!! If you really want to level up your confidence game, check out the WOMEN OF IMPACT SUBSCRIPTION, specially designed to turn you into the badass you were born to be!  Women of EXTRA Impact Subscription Benefits: New episodes delivered ad-free Exclusive access to listen to Women of Impact round table discussions, weekly motivation, previously unreleased episodes, and more!  Subscriber-only access to an additional 4 podcasts with hundreds of archived Women of Impact episodes, meticulously curated into themed playlists, and updated weekly. Looking to boost your confidence? Check out the Get Confident playlist.  Want to repair and heal your relationships? Start with Love Lab.  Curious about your health? We’ve got you covered in Health Hub.  And of course, weekly boosts of mini-motivation from Lisa herself that'll have you strutting through life with your head held high on the Badass Boosts playlist  Don't settle for mediocrity when you can be extraordinary! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/457ebrP Subscribe on all other platforms (Google Podcasts, Spotify, Castro, Downcast, Overcast, Pocket Casts, Podcast Addict, Podcast Republic, Podkicker, and more) : https://impacttheorynetwork.supercast.com/