Love Expert Reveals the Secrets to a Successful Relationship | Spirit on Women of Impact

Host of Love Goals on the OWN Network and in possession of a PhD in General Psychology, the therapist known as Spirit combines gritty real-world experience with high-level academic thinking in her straight-forward, powerful advice. She not only gets to the point, she nails the most important point every time. And on this episode of Women of Impact with Lisa Bilyeu, Spirit takes on some of the most important questions that everyone who struggles with dating and relationships need answered. She explains why you have to see dating as an interview process, breaks down the difference between chemistry and compatibility, and details exactly how to focus on solutions instead of problems in your relationship. This episode is brought to you by: Impact Theory University: university.impacttheory.com Blinkist: Go to https://blinkist.com/woi Try it FREE for 7 days and save 25% off your new subscription.  SHOW NOTES:  Spirit breaks down the difference between chemistry and compatibility [1:45] People often mistake the relationship’s chemistry changing for falling out of love [3:56] Spirit explains how people end up feeling that they are incompatible [6:45] When you are dating, that is the perfect time to go slow and really take stock [8:32] Spirit talks about how someone can be a 10 at 2 AM but a 2 at 10 AM [11:34] There are three sides: you, your partner and the relationship [14:38] Spirit explains what to do instead of focusing on the problems [17:57] There is science to relationships, and you can control intensity, duration and connection [19:48] Relationship problems and habits are passed down through the generations [22:01] Spirit explains how to deal with feelings, thoughts and behaviors [24:41] If you can change the way you think and behave, everything else will fall in line [27:33]  FOLLOW LISA: Instagram: https://bit.ly/2TIsoKh FOLLOW SPIRIT:  WEBSITE: oprah.com/app/love-goals.html  INSTAGRAM: instagram.com/talk2spirit/ TWITTER: twitter.com/talk2spirit Are You Ready for EXTRA Impact? Calling all Badasses!! If you really want to level up your confidence game, check out the WOMEN OF IMPACT SUBSCRIPTION, specially designed to turn you into the badass you were born to be!  Women of EXTRA Impact Subscription Benefits: New episodes delivered ad-free Exclusive access to listen to Women of Impact round table discussions, weekly motivation, previously unreleased episodes, and more!  Subscriber-only access to an additional 4 podcasts with hundreds of archived Women of Impact episodes, meticulously curated into themed playlists, and updated weekly. Looking to boost your confidence? Check out the Get Confident playlist.  Want to repair and heal your relationships? Start with Love Lab.  Curious about your health? We’ve got you covered in Health Hub.  And of course, weekly boosts of mini-motivation from Lisa herself that'll have you strutting through life with your head held high on the Badass Boosts playlist  Don't settle for mediocrity when you can be extraordinary! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts: https://apple.co/457ebrP Subscribe on all other platforms (Google Podcasts, Spotify, Castro, Downcast, Overcast, Pocket Casts, Podcast Addict, Podcast Republic, Podkicker, and more) : https://impacttheorynetwork.supercast.com/