How to Not Die Alone By Eliminating Self-Sabotage - A Book Summary

This podcast episode dives into the details of what I learned from a book called How to Not Die Alone. The book provides very useful tips and insights about three self-sabotaging tendencies that stop us from succeeding in our love life in the modern world. I believe these tendencies can also be applied to the professional world, with our pursuit of a dream job and following our passion. I explain how you can map these tips to the career world. Hope you find it valuable! I certainly did. I think this book is a little less known than it should be, so I think it’s worth putting this podcast episode out there. You’ll learn: * How modern dating didn’t happen until the 18th century. Arranged marriages for resources was the norm for thousands of years before that. * How we’re in another revolution with online dating, and that’s why we’re all so confused. * The three tendencies that self-sabotage our success and keep us from getting out there and/or committing. * What attachment theory is and how it self-sabotages. * Various tips on how to enhance your dating success.   Like this show? Please leave a rating here — even one review helps! Listen on all podcast platforms: Book Review Throughout the podcast episode, I point to the merits of the book and how it’s worth reading. But since this is the book review section, I will focus more on the things I thought could’ve been better. That doesn’t detract from the fact that overall, I found this book to be useful and an enjoyable, actionable read. Dating advice from women has notoriously been made up of a lot of bad advice based in too much theory and not enough experience. On rare occasion, you can find some gems. The classic example is the most common, terrible advice to be yourself; men throw their hands up in the air in frustration in reaction, complaining that they have been being themselves for years with little success. While good intentioned, the advice focuses on the spirit of how being fake repels women, but fails to account for the fact that you should probably present your best self, not just your normal self, if you want to see a change from your typical, drab results. I, for example, am a slow talker who doesn’t like to mention that much about me in the fear of bragging, but people may conclude that I am boring from that snapshot. Being myself can put me into a disadvantage. Returning to my main point, this book has generally good advice. It has advice that’s tested with various real life examples. You can tell the author has coached a lot of people successfully. That said, I did notice pockets of advice that missed the mark a bit. She suggests using two factors to decide which events you should go to meet people in real life; these factors are how much you’d enjoy the event and how good the conversations will be there. Just from experience, I knew immediately that she was missing at least one other important factor: how likely it is that the mates you want to meet will go there. For example, I love the gym, board game meetups, card meetups, and nerd/anime/game meetups; but the girl guy ratio there is consistently at least 1.5:1, sometimes 5:1, 10:1, or 1:0. That’s right. Sometimes, there isn’t a woman in sight except for people paid to coordinate the event. You may love Magic the Gathering or Dungeons and Dragons,