Episode 75: Julie Lythcott-Haims – Raising Independent Kids

Julie Lythcott-Haims is the NYT Bestselling author of How to Raise an Adult which gave rise to her popular Ted Talk. Her newest book is coming out, it is called Your Turn: How to be an Adult. Julie is also the author of a poetry memoir called Real American which illustrates her experience as a black and biracial person in white spaces. Julie worked at Stanford University as the Dean of Freshman for over a decade and she noticed a rise in parental involvement in students’ lives. That is where the book, How to Raise an Adult, came from. Julie has two children. What we talked about: 6:40- Introduction to Julie 9:00- Her role as a dean at Stanford and how it shaped how she parented her own kids 18:20- Allowing your kids to roam freely 26:55- Balancing structure and free play  32:00- The methods to encourage kids to do things on their own 39:35- Benchmarks for various ages 46:25- Parents helping too much with their kid’s homework 49:00- Giving your kids agency 56:45- End of podcast questions Show notes: Julie’s Website Julie on Instagram Julie’s Ted Talk How to Raise an Adult Your Turn: How to be an Adult Real American Read Until You Understand by Farah Jasmine Griffin Connect with Lindsey:  Lindsey on Instagram Lindsey on Twitter Follow SandyBoy Productions: Sandyboy Productions on Twitter Sandyboy Productions on Instagram SandyBoy Productions Shows:  Why is Everyone Yelling? The Up and Running Podcast The Illuminate Podcast The Herban Farmacy Podcast Sponsors: Previnex Use code “Lindsey15” for 15% off your first order or “Immunity15” for 15% off Immunity Health Plus Portland Bee Balm Use the code “sandyboy” for 20% off your first order