Episode 111: Yael Schonbrun – Your Relationship With Your Partner After Kids

Yael is a returning guest on the show. She was on the show back in August on episode 99. In that episode, we talked about what it is like to thrive in work, parenting, relationships, stress management, and how we can plan to focus on the things that really matter to us. Today, we dive deep into relationships and how we can learn to parent with our significant other and still enjoy being around them. In this conversation, Yael breaks down how we can grow in the connect in the good, the bad, and the downright infuriating. Yael Schonbrun, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist, assistant professor at Brown University, co-host of Psychologists Off the Clock: A podcast about the science and practice of living well, and mother of three. Yael’s work draws on scientific research, her clinical experience, ancient wisdom, and her own personal experience with her three little boys.  Yael is the author of the new book called Work, Parent, Thrive. It has twelve science backed strategies to ditch guilt, manage overwhelm, and grow connection (when everything feels like too much). What we talked about: 3:50- Pouring into your relationships at home amidst the busy 5:50- Balancing her work with what she has going on in her own life  8:00- Appreciating the differences between you and your partner 10:15- Scheduling in time for you and your partner 14:35- Talking about marital problems with your friend groups 17:30- Toxic positivity 26:40- Communicating about mortality with kids 28:35- Struggles in relationships with kids 32:05- Division of responsibilities with kids 45:00- Managing flexible schedules 53:20- Last message  Show notes: Toxic Positivity Four Thousand Weeks The Fair Play Deck Love Your Enemies Work, Parent, Thrive Connect with Lindsey:  Lindsey on Instagram Lindsey on Twitter Lindsey on Facebook  Join the I’ll Have Another Facebook Group Support the I’ll Have Another Podcast on Patreon Follow SandyBoy Productions: Sandyboy Productions on Twitter Sandyboy Productions on Instagram SandyBoy Productions Shows:  Why is Everyone Yelling? The Up and Running Podcast The Illuminate Podcast The Herban Farmacy Podcast The Ready to Run Podcast Sponsors: Goodr Use code “Lindsey15” for 15% off your order Prep Dish Go to Prepdish.com/lindsey for a free 2-week trial Donna Marathon Use code “Lindsey10” for 10% off your race registration