Why It's Up to You to Take Charge of Your Emotional Reality GUEST: James L. Creighton

Got Empathy? That's one key that unlocks the willingness to enter into a problem-solving process with your partner, according to today's guest, Dr. James. L. Creighton. You need more! Dr. Creighton says: "Empathy allows us to enter into the emotional reality of our loved ones, so that even when there are differences, there is still shared experience." In today's episode, I'm asking how to keep that 'shared experience' loving, kind, and helpful. It takes willingness, skill, finesse, and interest to keep a relationship strong and growing. Dr. Creighton has been married for a very long time. He openly shares the good and not-so-good moments, and how he and his wife have weathered the difficult ones. His recent book, Loving Through Your Differences, draws on the latest research in cognitive science and developmental psychology to show how we invent our realities with our perceptual minds. He offers clear, concrete tools for shifting perceptions and reframing responses, with the result that couples move out of the fear and alienation of "your way or my way" and into a deep understanding of the other that allows for an "our way." HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:Why the ability to reframe is important to loving through your differencesHow Dr. Creighton's Five Minute Rule helps let off steamImportant steps in the problem-solving process that can't be missedHow to get past not agreeing with each other Do we have to share an "emotional reality" in order to stay together? >>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you. Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships!GUEST: JAMES L. CREIGHTON, PhDJames L. Creighton, PhD, is the author of Loving Through Your Differences. A psychologist and relationship consultant, he has worked with couples and conducted communications training for more than fifty years. Creighton recently developed and conducted couples conflict training for several hundred professional staff of the Thailand Department of Mental Health, based on a new Thai translation of his book, How Loving Couples Fight. He has taught throughout North America as well as in Korea, Japan, Israel, Brazil, Egypt, Russia, and the Republic of Georgia. FREE GIFT FROM JAMES CREIGHTON : Not at this time.CONTACT INFO FOR JAMES CREIGHTON:Website: JamesLCreighton.comPodcasts:LinkedIn: Facebook:Instagram: Twitter:  @NewWorldLibraryYouTube: CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:Website: TransformingRelationship.comFacebook: RelationshipHelpDoctorTwitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShalerLinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShalerInstagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShalerPinterest: Pinterest.com/RhobertaShalerWANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?Be first to get my videos. Even, two group Ask Me Anything calls each month.You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!Free Passive-Aggressive ChecklistFree Relationship ChecklistSubscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for RelationshipsFREE ebook: How to Spot a Hijackal®If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healthyrelationship #personalwholeness#narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #newworldlibrary Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.