#019 - Persuasion Skills - How they work
Persuasion The ability to persuade is a powerful skill. Before you can persuade anyone of anything you need to persuade yourself that you have (or can gain) the skills necessary to improve your life. There are strong emotional reasons why persuasion works and how you can use them to your advantage. Fear is a powerful emotion In they episode we look at the 4 major social fears that most people have. 1. Fear of Failure 2. Fear of being judged or rejected 3. Fear of Missing Out - FOMO 4. Fear of the Unknown or uncertainty 10 Signs You Might Have a Fear of Failure The following list is not a professional diagnosis, but if you feel that more than one or two lines in this list are very characteristic of you, then you might want to examine the issue further, either by doing more reading about it or talking to a professional. 1. If you worry about what other people think about you. 2. If you worry about your ability to pursue the future you desire. 3. If you worry that people will lose interest in you. 4. If you worry about how intelligent or capable you are. 5. If you worry about disappointing people whose opinion you value. 6. If you tell people beforehand that you don’t expect to succeed in order to lower their expectations. 7. If you have trouble imagining what you could have done differently to succeed. 8. If you often get last-minute headaches, stomach pain, or other physical symptoms that prevent you from completing your preparation. 9. If you often get distracted by tasks that prevent you from completing your preparation which were not really as urgent as they seemed at the time. 10. If you tend to procrastinate and "run out of time" to complete your preparation adequately. Next we tell you what to do about these fears and how you can overcome them. We finish off with 12 points to cover of most of the main fears. 1. Do the work. Don’t be lazy 2. Stop waiting. The time is now. 3. Rely on yourself. No one else cares enough. They have their own battles. 4. Be practical. Getting on in life is not a theory. 5. Get up early. Be productive early. Don’t sit around all day waiting for motivation. You don’t go anywhere to get motivated. It’s internal. 6. Don’t be a cry baby. Life is hard. Get on with it. 7. Don’t associate with idiots. Pick your friends carefully. 8. Do not waste time on things you can’t control. 9. Stop kidding yourself. It’s embarrassing. 10. Don’t try to please people. It’s sad. 11. Don’t put toxic substances in your body. It’s stupid and you will need it to get around for a long time. 12. Stop doing the same thing and hoping change will come All success leave clues. The Skill Stack shows you what to look for and more importantly, like any great recipe, the correct order of the ingredients and skills is as important. For all the underlying links and transcript, go to: www.TheSkillStack.com/podcast You can get us in our Twitter account: @TheSkillStack email us on: [email protected]