Motivating Our Kids - Top Tips

GET THE FULL TRANSCRIPT Introduction: Greetings and welcome back to the Resilient Kid podcast with Ashley Costello, a psychotherapist with over 25 years of experience. Recap of the previous episode, highlighting the importance of last week's discussion on a campaign related to teenagers and paracetamol. Main Content: Motivating Kids Without Rewards and Punishments Campaign Update: Emphasis on the ongoing campaign regarding paracetamol availability and its impact on teenagers. Quick summary of the campaign's goals and the reduction in suicides related to paracetamol. Behavioral Motivation: Introduction to the central theme: motivating kids without relying on traditional reward and punishment methods. Discussion on the limitations of the carrot-and-stick approach, referencing an experiment by Skinner with rats. Insight into the outdated nature of certain parenting and educational techniques derived from this approach. Understanding Kids' Behavior: Highlighting the need to understand and manage kids' behavior during challenging situations. Explanation of the impact of meltdowns on children's brain functions and their inability to access certain cognitive areas. Importance of parental reactions in guiding children through difficult moments. Connecting with Kids: Emphasizing the significance of connection over punishment when addressing children's misbehavior. Advocating for a focus on how parents handle situations when things go wrong rather than when everything is going right. Anecdotes and examples illustrating the power of genuine connection in shaping children's behavior. Natural Consequences and Internal Motivation: Introducing the concept of natural consequences as an alternative to punishment. Providing examples of setting up internal motivation using the "When and Then" strategy. Encouraging language that fosters a sense of responsibility and internal drive in children. Conclusion: Recap of key points: connecting with kids, guiding them through challenging moments, and promoting internal motivation. Useful Links: Sign up to our newsletter: Newsletter Signup Waitlist for “The Resilient Teen Book”: Resilient Teen Book Waitlist Waitlist for "The Teen Coaches": Teen Coaches Waitlist Get “A Parents Guide To Raising A Resilient Kid” Book - Amazon Link Social Links: Facebook: Resilient Kid on Facebook Instagram: Resilient Kid on Instagram LinkedIn: Resilient Kid on LinkedIn Pinterest: Resilient Academy on Pinterest Youtube: Resilient Kid on Youtube Spotify: Resilient Kid on Spotify Website: Resilient Academy Website