193. The surprising thing that happened when I got out of my own way...
Join the GET OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY WORKSHOP HERETo set the scene…It was Nov 2019 - just over two years after my Mum had suddenly passed away and just over two years after starting the job I’d been working my whole career to “get”. There I was on a train from Liverpool Lime Street to Euston to meet my then boss / CEO to tell him I was going to quit my job & start my own business. Full disclosure: it had taken YEARS to get to this point.…Years, money spent on coaching, numerous discussions with my husband and (thank god) complete naivety to the plot-twist-of-a-pandemic that NONE of us knew was about to happen (yes, I launched my business just before the pandemic hit. LOL at me). Long story short: I got out of my own way (🥳) But what happened next may surprise you… As soon as I go OUT of my own way (quit my job and started Thrive Life & Business)……I just as quickly got back IN my own way again. I know …I KNOW.I couldn’t understand it. “What is WRONG with me…?!” I thought. Looking back - the answer is: nothing. Nothing was wrong with me. It just (very much) FELT like there was something wrong with me. I felt like I was human-ing wrong. I. JUST. KEPT. GETTING. IN. MY. OWN. WAY 😫 But really all that was going on was I didn’t yet know how to SUPPORT myself when I was getting in my own way. You name it - there I was, cock blocking mySELF from making progress:* Pricing my services …comparison* Writing E-Mails & social media posts to tell people about what I do …complete brain-blank-procrastination-do-ANTHING-else-other-than-put-words-on-the-screen* Promoting what I do …DEBILITATING self doubt (despite the calm, grounded, quiet confidence that had been hard earned from 18+years experience in Learning & Development) And that’s the thing about getting in your own way… It’s a practice.It’s not ONCE AND DONE.Therefore being able to:* Identify your negative assumptions about yourself that hold you back (& play out without you even knowing it!)* Recognise the thoughts & behaviours of getting in your own way * Build a personalised-to-you guide of getting out of YOUR own way …is priceless. Well no, actually - it’s £49. I’ve created a workshop that is going to help you GET OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY and I would LOVE you to be there. Moral of the story:Getting out of your own way isn’t a ‘once and done’ thing. As you navigate the ups and downs of business - you’ll have to get out of your own way again, and again, and again. THIS is why it’s important to LEARN how to SUPPORT yourself when you ARE getting in your own way. And the benefits of actively practicing that will ripple out not only into our results business …but you’ll FEEL like you’re on your own team too. Join me - Wednesday 18th Oct 10am.Nik x This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit nikkicross.substack.com