Why Receiving is So Hard and How to Start Changing it Today EP10

The Art of Receiving: Why It's Essential for Success Hello love, it's Alecia St. Germain and I’m beyond excited to dive into today's topic, one that is a pervasive issue in our culture – the art of receiving. Whether it's help, support, gifts, or even a simple compliment, receiving is something many of us struggle with, especially entrepreneurs. Jonathan Dugger, clinical psychologist and wellness expert, is with me again as we dive into why this is so hard, and how we can look at receiving with a different perspective. The Struggle to Receive Many of us have been conditioned to believe that receiving comes with strings attached. Jonathan and I discussed how this mindset stems from a fear of obligation and a deep- seated sense of unworthiness. Jonathan highlighted that culturally, we're often taught it's better to give than to receive, which can skew our perception of receiving as a passive or even a negative act. We can even interpret receiving as a signal that we need help or are unable to do things on our own. He also touched on the dopamine effect we get when we give to others. We genuinely feel better. For some, chasing these feel-good moments can lead to issues around giving and self-worth. The Power of Vulnerability Receiving is not a sign of weakness. It's a powerful act of vulnerability. When we allow ourselves to receive, we open up to new possibilities and strengthen our connections with others. Jonathan shared an impactful story about working in a soup kitchen and learning the importance of accepting gifts, even from those who seemingly had less to give. This experience underscored that refusing help or kindness can rob others of their joy and dignity. Learning to Accept the Compliment Jonathan shares a great example of accepting the kind words offered to us and a small step we can take to help rewire our brain to shift from reluctance to acceptance. Shifting the Narrative One of the biggest takeaways from our conversation is the need to reframe our understanding of control and worthiness. Many entrepreneurs struggle with delegating tasks because they fear losing control. This perceived control can hinder growth and prevent us from fully leveraging the talents of our teams. Instead, we should embrace the idea that asking for and accepting help is a form of empowerment and a testament to our leadership. Practicing Self-Compassion Jonathan and I also touched on the importance of self-compassion. When we negate compliments or deflect positive feedback, we reinforce negative self-beliefs. Practicing acceptance, whether it's a compliment or a helping hand, can significantly improve our self-worth and overall mindset. You Are Enough I want to leave you with this final thought; remember that you are enough. Embrace the power of receiving. It’s not just about making your life easier but also about creating a culture of mutual support and respect. When we allow ourselves to receive, we make space for growth, connection, and greater success. Jonathan and I are here for you and we are thankful for your support as well. I hope this episode inspires you to rethink the way you approach receiving in your life. Resources: The Go Giver by Bob Burg and John David Mann Episode 6: Why You Self-Sabotage