053: The Downsides of Processing With Your Partner with Kelley Bode
Hi everyone! In this episode, I’m going solo to share my thoughts with you about processing with your partner in a relationship. Long story short, it’s a BIG no from me! Matt and I have found that when we process our relationship or start to coach each other when we have conflict, it just never ends well. I’ve seen first-hand how much this did not work for us and so I’m giving you all the reasons why I think this may not be the best idea for your relationship. I talk about how processing can change the dynamics in a relationship, have major effects on sexual intimacy, desire and polarity, alternative ways to “coach” your partner if you’re having a disagreement and the importance of having an outside support system (that you have vetted first!) to work through and talk about issues you may be having. I’d also love to hear your own thoughts on processing with a partner and whether it has worked for you! Have you noticed any differences in your relationship and sexual intimacy when you do process with your partner? Has it improved or hindered the relationship? Let me know! WHAT ELSE I TALK ABOUT: - How to avoid becoming a teacher, therapist or authority figure over your partner when working through disagreements and have conversations from the heart instead - How processing with your partner may seem helpful at the start but will eventually wear away at your sexual desire, polarity and intimacy - Sometimes we DO need to know when we’re projecting but it’s best to hear that from a friend, coach or therapist rather than your partner - How something delivered with care, love and from the heart is ultimately better than it coming from a place of anger or resentment - The importance of having a full life outside of your relationship with a strong network of support Connect with me: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/kelleymbode Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/kelley.bode.90 Twitter: https://twitter.com/kelleybode