It's All About Reactions - How To Stay In Control & In Our Power With Special Victims Investigator Will Kesselman
Today’s topic is about the power of mindset and how to manage and control our response to others when dating. This week’s guest is Special Victim’s Investigator Will Kesselman, an expert in dynamic and repetitive patterns. He shares what he’s learned on the job. His acquired skills in psychology, coaching, consulting, and advanced knowledge around trauma so we can sharpen our skills around judgment. Decide which people to avoid and who is worthy of our time. He’ll share strategies he’s used in leading thousands of women to safety. HIS theories around emotional reactions–so you can stay in control and remain in power. We’ll discover that you don’t have to be phenomenally skilled to succeed; you need to be phenomenally willed, and if you want to find love, you absolutely can as long as you stay determined because where there is a will, there’s a way!Will Kesselman, Special Victims Investigator, Social Impact Strategist, speaker, and, Founder and President of Control and Power Strategy, a Domestic Violence- Divorce Consulting Trauma Coaching agency. After experiencing trauma, he chose to dedicate his life to protecting others. With over 14 years of experience, through his consulting and coaching company, Will continues to help empower mostly women, and sometimes men, to protect themselves, even potentially saving lives. Through his company, Will specializes in revealing to his clients the hidden information known mostly to government investigators, police, and judges; and how they think and react to situations. Will has helped thousands navigate government and community systems to safety. Will has also recently been on a "live" private FB group (for Domestic Violence) with over 10 thousand members, podcasts, and a radio show on KLAA for Southern California. Today, Will teaches us that we can respond differently to how others treat us and that we can be in control of our feelings and our emotions. Kerry Brett and Will Kesselman cover a lot of ground. Topics include; How to use pain to catapult you forward, especially in online dating.Will’s golden rule of being responsive, not reactive, and how it serves him in his life.How behavior can lead to thoughts, then thoughts lead to emotions.How we feel about ourselves matters in who they will attract.How women have a gatekeeper which is usually a best friend or sister, when vetting people to date.How to get an emotional response with the words you use when texting.A big red flag to Will is someone who's not flexible; the relationship is being set up as one-sided, or the person is being too dominant. This is trouble and not going to work.Women should never settle or make excuses for poor behavior because they don’t want to start over.Why it’s so difficult to leave a toxic relationship because of the emotional bonding.Why women are likely to get addicted to a relationship quicker than a man.Narcissists have to feed and are brilliant manipulatives and need to have a woman to dominate.Will’s advice around the mistakes women make when dating?Women need to understand they have more control and are worth more than they think.The importance of a buddy system when dating.Men will respond favorably when the woman stands in her power, and if they don’t respond favorably, they aren’t for you.To find out more about Will Kesselman, go to www.controlandpower.com, follow him on Instagram @will_wise_words, on LinkedIn under Will K., and Clubhouse or Owwll under Will Kesselman.