How To Be Confident with Mel Schilling

In this episode of the Powerful Stories podcast, I chat with the fabulous psychologist-turned-confidence coach Mel Schilling. I believe you can’t step into your power zone if you don’t know how to step out of your comfort zone, so I one hundred per cent back Mel’s philosophy that courage is essential for building genuine confidence.  Mel and I share a lot of synchronicities, we are both courageous and reach out to our network and call on the power of connection. This is exactly what Mel did to land one of her biggest career stepping-stones, a role as a Relationships Expert on a little show you may have heard of called Married At First Sight. We cover everything from calling on support during challenging times, to auditing the relationships in our life to help us live the life that sets our heart on fire. I truly believe that   owning the power of our story allows us to be seen, and this comes only once we are confident with who we are – so if you’re seeking to make a global impact, this episode is for you. Much love, Tory xox  Topics Discussed [1:02] Mel sees courage as the gateway to confidence, and says that first comes courage, then confidence, then competence. She also shares that the most courageous thing she has ever done is put herself forward to a job as a relationship expert on Married At First Sight – when there wasn’t even a vacancy. A big part of turning this move into a success was the way Mel drew on the power of her network to connect her with the right people along the way. [6:16] Mel opens up about the vision board and other manifestation techniques she employed to help her secure her dream role, including NLP (neuro-linguistic programming).  [8:05] How Mel stepped into her power to own who she was and find her soulmate after spending her entire 30s single. At almost 40, she decided to practice what she was preaching in her coaching work and stepped into online dating, where she met her now-husband.   [11:15] Mel talks about how as women we can take ownership of ourselves to come into our power, and how this involves knowing which things to compromise on (and which we shouldn’t). Ultimately, it’s about letting go of what doesn’t matter – usually this is around other peoples’ opinions, and it involves letting go of years of conditioning.  [13:31] How to vibrate at a high level to attract the right people into your life by conducting a ‘relationship audit’ in your life.  [17:32] Mel opens up about her challenging experience being the target of a vicious backlash following a comment she made in the media, and how she dealt with it – including leaning on her inner circle, putting practical boundaries in place around social media and taking time out. [22:26] We talk about how often we see the light once we’ve learnt the lesson that the challenge has been sent to teach us. Other times, it’s about accepting that the situation is outside of our control, and choosing our response.  [24:05] Mel’s next powerful step will be running her own production projects (watch this space) to help people live out their full potential, through building their confidence.   Where to find Mel Schilling Website: www.melanieschilling.com Instagram: @mel_schilling1   Where to Find Tory Archbold Are you ready to take a powerful step forward in business and in life? You can join Tory’s dynamic community of top female entrepreneurs by signing up to the Powerful Steps Coffee Challenge (it’s free!): https://powerful-steps.com/coffee-challenge/. You can also connect with Tory Archbold and her offerings, including corporate keynote speaking, business mentoring and the popular Business Attraction Program, here: Instagram: @powerfulsteps LinkedIn: Powerful Steps by Tory Archbold YouTube: Powerful Steps – YouTube Business Attraction Program: click here  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.