Why Victimhood Is Choice - With Quadriplegic And Ms America Wheelchair Winner, Ali Ingersoll

Join me for one of my show's most inspiring interviews yet with the incredible Ali Ingersoll, whose life took a dramatic turn after a diving accident left her a C6 quadriplegic. Ali shares her adventurous pre-accident life, her harrowing recovery journey, and her inspiring work as a disability rights advocate. Most importantly though, she shares why victimhood is a choice and how we can use the power of perspective and taking responsibility for ourselves as the key to changing our lives for the better - no matter the adversity that we face. Get ready to laugh, tear up and be beyond inspired by the incredible, Ali Ingersoll.  Learn more about Ali and connect with her here: https://aliingersoll.com/  CLICK HERE to ORDER Kate's book "Okay. Now What?" - How to Be Resilient When Life Gets Tough. Want to download a free chapter of my book to give it a read first? CLICK HERE. Want to Kate to speak at your event or workplace? Visit https:https://www.kategladdin.com/ Check out Kate's personalised life coaching programs: https://www.kategladdin.com/coaching    Introduction to the Episode (00:00:00)   Kate Gladdin introduces episode 18 and welcomes guest Ali Ingersoll. Ali's Colorful Background (00:01:06)   Ali shares her unique upbringing and experiences traveling around the world. Moving to China (00:03:37)   Ali discusses her spontaneous move to China and experiences there. Life-Changing Accident (00:06:53)   Ali recounts the shallow water diving accident that left her paralyzed. Initial Recovery Challenges (00:07:50)   Ali describes her recovery journey, including medical challenges and surgeries. Struggles and Resilience (00:08:36)   She shares her ongoing struggles, including health issues and mental health challenges. Connecting with the Disability Community (00:11:17)   Ali explains how connecting with the disability community changed her life. Advocacy Work (00:12:13)   Ali discusses her advocacy efforts for health equity and disability rights. Navigating Personal Life (00:12:27)   Ali talks about her dating life and the intersection of personal experiences with advocacy. Combining Advocacy and Business (00:13:56)   Ali shares her journey to becoming a disability strategy consultant and speaker.  Conclusion of Ali's Journey (00:15:14)   Kate reflects on Ali's inspiring journey and the lessons learned along the way. Ali's Surgery Experience (00:16:45)   Ali describes a failed surgery and the emotional impact of her recovery journey. Finding Community (00:17:44)   Ali shares how connecting with others on Facebook helped her feel less isolated during recovery. The Importance of Support (00:18:27)   Ali emphasizes the need for community support and understanding from those who have shared similar experiences. Choosing Empowerment (00:19:10)   They discuss the significance of choosing to empower oneself instead of adopting a victim mentality. Belief Systems and Life's Challenges (00:19:25)   Ali reflects on whether everything happens for a reason, emphasizing personal interpretation of life's events. Mentorship and Listening (00:21:00)   Ali talks about mentoring women with similar experiences and the importance of listening to their needs. Processing Grief and Loss (00:22:09)   The speakers discuss the complexities of grief and how personal experiences shape their perspectives. Life's Unexpected Paths (00:24:11)   Ali considers how her life would have been different without her accident but finds meaning in her current path. Redefining Happiness (00:24:39)   Ali's TED talk focuses on the concept of "happy enough" and the societal pressures surrounding happiness. Taking Responsibility (00:25:33)   Discussion on taking 100% responsibility for one's life and the impact of mindset on personal growth. Emotional Hostage Situations (00:28:24)   Ali describes how negative thoughts can trap individuals in their own lives, hindering progress. Humor in Difficult Times (00:31:22)   The importance of humor and light-heartedness in coping with serious life challenges is highlighted. Legacy and Impact (00:32:32)   Ali expresses her desire to leave a legacy that positively impacts others rather than focusing solely on personal achievements. Social Media and Doomscrolling (00:33:06)   Ali discusses her use of social media, including a phase of doomscrolling. Happiness vs. Purpose (00:33:27)   Kate reflects on the difference between external validation and finding internal peace after loss. Hope Among Holocaust Survivors (00:34:24)   Ali shares insights from studies on Holocaust survivors and the power of hope during adversity. Altruism and Selfishness (00:35:11)   The speakers debate whether altruism is selfish if it benefits both the giver and receiver. Finding Meaning in Grief (00:36:07)   Kate explains how her sister's death led her to seek underlying problems and create a charity. Risk Assessment in Adventure (00:37:40)   Ali describes her approach to risky activities, emphasizing research and acceptance of consequences. Cultural Differences in Grief (00:38:01)   The conversation touches on varying beliefs about death and how they influence behavior. The Power of Perspective (00:40:19)   Kate shares a story about a farmer illustrating the unpredictability of life events and responses. Curiosity as a Life Principle (00:41:06)   Ali encourages being insatiably curious and learning from diverse experiences and conversations. Friendship Dynamics (00:41:47)   The speakers discuss the unrealistic expectation of finding everything in one friend. The Importance of Resilience (00:42:31)   Kate emphasizes the choice between being a victim of circumstances and maintaining resilience. Connecting with Ali Online (00:43:19)   Ali shares her blog and website for listeners to connect with her and her work.