The Worst Girl Gang Ever - Interview with Laura and Bex

Today Zoe speaks to Laura Buckingham and Bex Gunn, they have only met in person once but within a few weeks of finding one another started a movement to offer education and support to the 1 in 4 women who suffer miscarriage. Zoe talks with them about their experiences that brought them together and what made them start their amazing podcast.   KEY TAKEAWAYS Laura and Bex first spoke when Bex wrote a blog post about her miscarriage and Laura contacted her about ‘smashing the stigma’! 1 in 4 women have to deal with the tragedy of miscarriage is why is it so many of us do not know where to go for help, advice or support? Bex had three straightforward pregnancies but her fourth pregnancy was a missed miscarriage. On top of an already horrendous experience for any parents Covid added another level of stress, emotion and heartbreak. Bex found that writing and talking to others about their experiences with miscarriage helped her feel just that little bit better about the situation. Laura has been part of the baby loss community for a number of years after suffering with multiple miscarriages and a molar pregnancy. It was only through her own research and determination that meant she was able to find out what her issues were. She fell pregnant before her treatment started but was able to start once pregnant and finally had her baby Bertie. Laura found that having her rainbow baby meant that she was no longer consumed by miscarriage and fertility which meant she was able to focus and drive to help others. Laura and Bex have moved fast and created various support spaces this year for women including on Facebook, Instagram and their own podcast. Suffering miscarriage and baby loss can make many feel ‘unwomanly’ but since creating these spaces with Laura, Bex has found that she feels the most womanly and the most empowered in her life. In trying to say something that helps, people who have not suffered miscarriage can say something inadvertently hurtful. We all need educating.   BEST MOMENTS “You sound like you’ve got balls!” “I was very naive and I was very laid back about everything” “It’s about raising awareness, it’s maybe about letting women speak about how they coped and using everyone’s experiences rather than just my own” “The worst part is the isolation…Whatever you’re dealing with if you know someone else is dealing with it too it does ease it a little”   VALUABLE RESOURCES www.petalscharity.org www.tommys.org www.arc-uk.org   ABOUT THE GUESTS Laura Buckingham and Bex Gunn, founders and creators of safe spaces for support and education around miscarriage and baby loss. Find them below: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-worst-girl-gang-ever/id1524031149 https://www.facebook.com/pg/theworstgirlgangever/     ABOUT THE HOST Zoe Cresswell Devoted mother of two (and a big hairy dog), UK trained midwife, doula and personal trainer, specialising in pre and postnatal fitness. Zoe was born in the UK and before moving to Dubai in 2013 and worked as a midwife in central London, both in a birth centre and a very busy NHS hospital. Although late to the scene, Zoe is an aspiring athlete having won numerous triathlons and representing Great Britain where she placed within the top 10 on the world stage. With her husband James, the couple will soon be launching their cloth nappy company, Bop & Bee, where they hope to inspire families to swap a few disposable nappies a day for the more planet friendly option of cloth. Zoe’s goal is to share her knowledge and experience, tell real life stories, manage expectations and open up those often difficult conversations. Zoe’s own motherhood journey has been full of twists and turns as she put everything on hold and went through numerous miscarriages and rounds of IVF.   CONTACT DETAILS Instagram : @zoecresswell_me Facebook: Zoe Cresswell LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/zoe-cresswell