707: Cheat Codes

Welcome back to Lez Hang Out, the podcast that is entering its Beyoncé Lemonade era.  This week Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out to discuss cheating, a topic that has been at the helm of many a queer discussion since the news broke about soccer star Ashlyn Harris dating Sophia Bush. While we are always thrilled to welcome a new member to team alphabet mafia, we do wish it could have happened in a less messy way. Instead, it seems to have come at the expense of two marriages, that of Sophia to her ex-husband and of Ashlyn to ex-wife Ali Krieger.  Cheating is a complicated subject, especially in today’s era of ethical non-monogamy and breaking down outdated societally imposed barriers on relationships. Even when discussing the apparent overlap of Ashlyn and Sophia’s relationship with that of their respective ex-spouses, Ashlyn tends to get a lot more flack for cheating than Sophia does. We believe this is largely due to queer people being conditioned to view cheating differently when it is intricately attached to a person’s coming out journey.  Another reason cheating is complicated is that everyone seems to have a different definition of what constitutes cheating. For some, simply watching porn or finding someone else attractive can be seen as cheating while for others the line is drawn at physically getting with another person. Ultimately, cheating comes down to breaking your partner’s trust and typically involves some degree of lying or hiding the truth. We talk about why people cheat, whether we think emotional or physical cheating is worse, and when it may be possible to forgive a cheater.  Follow us on Twitter: Lez Hang Out (@lezhangoutpod) and answer our Q & Gay questions at the end of every episode. You can also join us on Facebook.com/lezhangoutpod and follow on Instagram (@lezhangoutpod). Find us individually on Instagram, Twitter, and TikTok at Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida).  We are planning another gaycation with Trova Trip! Join Ellie, Leigh and a gaggle of gays in Costa Rica May 1-6, 2024, for a relaxing vacay in the heart of the gorgeous Rincón de la Vieja National Park. For more information and to be among the first to book a spot (and snatch up that Early Bird Discount!), visit bit.ly/lezdocostarica. You can support Lez Hang Out while unlocking a bunch of awesome perks like access to our exclusive Discord, monthly full length bonus episodes, weekly ad free episodes, and more by joining us on Patreon at bit.ly/lezpatreon. You can also support the podcast by buying our original merch at bit.ly/lezshop and purchasing our original Lez-ssentials songs for as little as $1 each on Bandcamp! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices