EP249 Pitfalls of the Prove It Mentality

Are you an "I'll believe it when I see it" kind of woman? Learn how this seemingly "realistic" and "sensible" mentality with make your fertility journey 10x worse and can create the worst kind of blocks between you and your baby. Can't say Mama didn't warn you...   Transcript: Hey Gorgeous, if you want success on your fertility journey, you've got to have the mindset for it. It's time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I'm your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist. I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43 despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey. It's time to get fearless baby, fearlessly fertile. Let's do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, episode 249, Pitfalls of the Prove It Mentality. Hey, my loves, I'm so excited to be here with you this week. As we dive in, I mean, sister, by the time you hear this, we are within spitting distance of 2024. And in furtherance of my desire to really help prepare you to be super fucking successful on your fertility journey in 2024, I want to continue down this path of calling things out and, you know, that might need some upgrades, okay, when it comes to how you want to approach Your fertility journey, your life, and all of that goodness in 2024. And this is why my attention was immediately drawn to the pitfalls of the Prove It Mentality. Now, it's funny because when we think about the Prove It Mentality, here's what I'm talking about. This is where people will move through their life and, and take the position of I'll believe it when I see it, and people, like, they just love to rest on the laurels of being realistic and being sensible and all of this stuff, but there's a real set of problems that can come up and sabotage patterns that can be created when You stay stuck in the stance of oh, I'll believe it when I see it and having a negative bias is somehow realistic and sensible, right? People put so much emphasis in this really warped belief system that expecting the worst. And, and holding back until they see some evidence is somehow the right thing to do, or the better thing to do, or the wiser thing to do. But at some point you gotta ask yourself, if you look at your results thus far, and that's what you've been doing, you've gotta ask, is that actually working for me? Is folding my arms and saying, prove it, I'll believe it when I see it, I'm gonna be realistic, I'm gonna be sensible, And I'm, I'm gonna wait to see the evidence, right? Is that actually moving you forward on your journey? Or is it keeping you in a position where you aren't taking the risks, you aren't taking the leaps, you aren't breaking out of the pattern, you're doing the same old shit, and then you're wondering why you are not getting a different result. You see, the primary problem that comes up with this kind of, what I call, prove it mentality, is It is inherently defensive. Okay, when you really pick apart the I'll believe it when I see it, oh just be realistic, oh just be sensible kind of mentality, is number one, at its core, a defensive position. And when we are in a defensive position, we look at the outside world as Everyone's just trying to, to, to get me. Everyone's out to get me. Right? This is one of the, one of the telltale signs that I hear, you know, when, when the team and I are interviewing women for my programs, and the first thing they want to do is blame their doctor, blame a whole bunch of other people. I mean,