EP107 Excuses Are Your Decoder Ring

We all make excuses, but did you know that our excuses are like a decoder ring? They tell us a lot about ourselves AND the blocks that threaten to stand between us and our babies. Transcript: Hey Gorgeous, if you want success on your fertility journey, you've got to have the mindset for it. It's time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I'm your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist. I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43, despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey, just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey. It's time to get fearless baby, fearlessly fertile. Let's do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile podcast, episode 107. Excuses are your decoder ring. Hey loves, woo wee! On the heels of a super challenging series on boundaries, I thought we'd change gears a bit and have a little fun with a topic I love having fun with, excuses. Ah, excuses. Excuses are the stink we all have. I think what makes them so interesting is we all have them, we all make them, and by and large they are embarrassingly socially acceptable. Excuses, simply put as I see them, are basically explanations or justifications we use to do or not do something. Now, what makes them different and frankly more insidious than your average explanation or justification is the maker of the excuse at some level knows it's bullshit. And more often than not, so does the receiver of the excuse. That's one of the reasons why I find excuses so incredibly fascinating. It's like, we know we are full of shit, the person we are imposing our excuse upon knows we are full of shit, and for some reason we allow being full of shit to be perfectly acceptable. What's even more interesting is even if the person making the excuse is kind of convinced of their own excuse, like, they still get it energetically that they're full of shit. So they know it feels weird, and you know it feels weird. You know when you're making an excuse. Like, you totally fucking know when you're making an excuse. So even if it sounds perfectly reasonable, there is going to be alarm bells that are going to be like these loud screaming alarm bells inside of you that are going off because you fucking know you are making an excuse. Now going back to the other part of my main point is that it's like excuses are a form of an acceptable lack of integrity. Excuses are a crutch that we use to not have to own up to our truth. which includes our shortcomings. It's crazy. Excuses are like a big ol cover up. And then, we look around and wonder why we aren't getting the results we want in our lives. We don't need an engineer from SpaceX to help us figure that out. It's us! Excuses come in a colorful variety of shapes and sizes. All varying in volume and drama. The other funny thing about excuses is they are often cloaked in an air of unimpeachable veracity. Delivered in such a way as to make the receiver of the excuse some kind of imbecile, if they have the audacity to question it. Excuses can be a manipulative and gross art form of sorts. What are the most prevalent excuses we make across the board? Drumroll, please. money, time, and it's either too hard or too much work. Now, remember what I said earlier about the nature of excuses. We tend to deliver them in such a way that they are insurmountable, when for the most part, that's a crock of shit. This is absolutely true of all of these two prevalent excuses of time, money, and it being too hard slash too much work.