EP106 Boundaries: Enforcement and the Aftermath

Enforcing boundaries with the people you love and the professionals you work with on this journey can be tough. Learn what it takes to confidently enforce boundaries and what to do in the aftermath. Transcript: Hey Gorgeous, if you want success on your fertility journey, you've got to have the mindset for it. It's time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I'm your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist. I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43, despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey, just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey. It's time to get fearless baby, fearlessly fertile. Let's do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile Podcast, Episode 106, Boundaries, Enforcement, and Aftermath. Hey loves, welcome to part three in this three part series on boundaries. We've talked about what boundaries are, why they are important, And some of the stories we tell ourselves about them that stop us dead in our tracks when it comes to setting them. We've also discussed what it takes to be wise with regard to the boundaries we set. It begins and ends with you. Crazy, right? The days of being able to blame other people for shit you don't like in your life is over, love. Particularly if you are committed to success on this journey. The truth has been exposed. We all have a role in the bullshit that shows up in our lives. The most awesome thing about that is this places us firmly in the driver's seat of our lives. We are responsible for ourselves. Does any of this mean that we all have to fall into a pit of nihilistic despair? No! Or, are we all damned to being lone wolves with no pack? Of course not. It just means we are responsible for telling our pack what we need. And if they can't or won't give it to us, that we find others to fill our pack who will. Sounds harsh, but it's fucking real and deep down, you know it. Boundaries are about being a grownup. This is the kind of personal responsibility that will open you up to filling your life with people who really value and appreciate you. There are a few times in your life when this is more important than when you're trying to build your family because this is what you are bringing your baby into. Enforcement of your boundaries is where the rubber hits the road. You have done the work to set a boundary, but it doesn't mean shit if you don't enforce it. That's true for you and the person you are setting the boundary with. A critical question to support your enforcement of the boundary or boundaries you set is What's important to you about this boundary? What's important to you about having your partner show up to your appointments? What's important to you about your doctor not bringing up surrogacy again? Even though you think it's awesome, have no judgments on it other than it's not for you. What's important to you about your mother butting out of when you are having a baby? What's important to you about your friends knowing that you don't want them to feel sorry for you? What's important to you about the people around you knowing that your choices on this journey are not up for public debate? What's important to you about your partner knowing you are working on you as you live this journey and you expect their support in that process? What's important to you about having your BFF send you a text once a week telling you she loves you just as you are? There are myriad other boundaries you can set, but the foundational inquiry is about why the particular boundary is important.