EP102 Afraid of Making Mistakes? Here’s The Cure

If you have a nasty habit of beating yourself up for “mistakes,” or find yourself in analysis paralysis over the daily decisions we have to make on this journey, the shift in perspective I will teach in this episode, can be the cure. Transcript: Hey Gorgeous, if you want success on your fertility journey, you've got to have the mindset for it. It's time to kick fear, negativity, doubt, shame, jealousy, and the whole clown car of low vibe fertility journey BS to the curb. I'm your host, Roseanne Austin, Fertility Mindset Master. Former prosecutor and recovering type A control freak perfectionist. I use the power of mindset to get pregnant naturally and have my baby boy at 43, despite years of fertility treatment failure. I help women across the globe beat the odds on their fertility journey, just like I did. Get ready for a quick hit of confidence, joy, feminine badassery, and loads of hell yes for your fertility journey. It's time to get fearless baby, fearlessly fertile. Let's do this. Welcome to the Fearlessly Fertile podcast, episode 102. Afraid of making mistakes? Here's the cure. Hey loves, well, there is no mistake in it. We are full speed into 2021. Can you believe it? I thought I'd check in and see how those New Year's resolutions are going. You know, those commitments you might have made at the beginning of the year? Oh yeah, those things. Now, if you have fallen off the wagon, or perhaps even forgot what you committed to, don't freak out. Don't beat yourself up. We are going to talk about something way smarter than that. And we are going to have some nerdy fun in the process as lovably type a women with a tendency toward perfectionism. We have a nasty pattern of utterly torturing ourselves if things are not exactly right. Sometimes this tendency prevents us from doing things we need to do because we fear not doing them correctly the first time. At times, this even prevents us from asking for help. Because we're laboring under the ridiculous notion that asking for help means you are incompetent across the board. Now, I can tell you that on my own journey, I would tell myself, I graduated summa cum laude, I have a law degree, I Whitkened an expert in scientific evidence in law school, I passed the toughest California bar in 20 years. I can figure this fertility shit out. I don't need any help with the way I think. It's perfectly fine. Now I did all that even though I lived in a mental shit pit for years. It's utterly laughable how we make the foolish extrapolation that our education and experience should make us mistake proof. Mistake proof. It's un fucking believable. Can you hear the thundering self sabotage in all of that? Can you hear the inherent ridiculousness in the idea that we should all be above making mistakes? It's absolutely ridiculous. Somewhere along the line, we picked up the dream stealing notion that we can't make mistakes or that our mistakes can be so costly that utter perfection is required to be victorious, both in our lives and on this journey. This pressure is paralyzing. On a daily basis, this idea turns otherwise driven, focused women into quivering masses of indecisive jelly. Today, we are going to do our part to unfuck that situation and open you up to an entirely different reality. Today, I'm going to help you cure your fear of making mistakes. To help you understand the cure for this useless state, I want to share a portion of a speech given by an American president that I find utterly fascinating, Teddy Roosevelt. He delivered this speech at the Sorbonne in Paris on April 23, 1910. The speech is quite long, but don't worry, I'm only going to be sharing the part that applies to our topic today. It's titled Citizenship in a Republic. I chose this because it beautifully conveys the idea that I want you to grasp when it ...