018 - Belonging: Who Wants Me | The Five Core Needs on Dr. Kathy Says

In this episode, Dr. Kathy delves into the third of the five core needs, which is belonging. Belonging is described as occupying a central position in the pyramid of core needs. Dr. Kathy emphasizes that belonging is fostered by both security and identity. She points out that when individuals, whether children or adults struggle with belonging, it is crucial to consider the state of their security and identity. If these aspects are not healthy, individuals are likely to face difficulties in finding a sense of belonging. The question of belonging is framed as "who wants me" rather than "who needs me." The episode notes that some individuals may attempt to fulfill their need for being wanted by being needed, but this approach can be problematic as it may lead to constantly seeking validation and assuming positions of power. Furthermore, the episode highlights that belonging stems from one's character, emphasizing the interconnectedness of security, identity, and character.