19: Why We Need BOTH Compassionate Love and Tough Love
In this week’s episode, I’m talking about WHY we need BOTH compassionate love & tough love, both as parents and in our own lives. Fear is real and it’s valid and you need to compassionately allow room to process it and all emotions associated with it, but there comes a time when tough love will be the ONLY thing that can help you overcome the fear and move you forward. If you’re feeling stuck in any way, today’s episode is for you! [1:00] Why the “tough love” mindset served the older generations & why we need to expand into bringing compassionate love to the forefront as well [1:57] When do we need tough love? [2:44] How the reality of my second life-altering event that put my body into widespread chronic pain affected my daughter when she was only 2 years old & how the resulting fear manifested in her life years later [4:28] How my work with the brain allowed me to see how what was happening in my daughter’s brain and address it [6:08] How my daughter started to see everything in her life through the lens of fear and how that was negatively impacting her ability to ENJOY the things she once loved [7:24] How to make space for your children (or yourself) to bring a voice to the fears and understand how the brain is cross-referencing past events in real time [9:01] When it’s time to SHIFT from the place of compassionate love to tough love [10:03] How to encourage your children (and yourself) to overcome your fears, so you don’t have to stay stuck with them for the rest of your life [11:33] The differentiation between just being TOUGH & doing things rooted in LOVE [12:13] The pivotal moment when you can SEE someone MAKE THE DECISION to overcome fear [13:19] How to evaluate where you are personally in your journey [13:51] How to separate them from now in your limbic system and WHY tough love is a crucial part of the process [15:07] Why you can CHOOSE to be bigger, stronger & more POWERFUL than your fears [15:47] Tough love is EMPOWERING. [16:40] Evaluating where you are in your life & healing journey [16:55] If you’re struggling & NEED that extra push with a plan and PROVEN process, I encourage you to go watch my FREE TRAINING on my website & schedule a FREE CONSULTATION @ ashlieghdilello.com! “You are not what happens to you, you are who you choose to become” -Ashleigh Di Lello JOIN MY FREE MONTHLY COACHING CALL “Ask Ashleigh” → https://ashleighdilello.com/askashleigh/