37. Why do kids struggle to accept their stepparent?

It feels frustrating and confusing when the kids resist their stepparent. It seems like no matter how much the stepparent reaches out to connect with the child, they just won't lower their walls — and sometimes those walls seem to be impenetrable! As adults, we feel like we should be able to figure this out. Bonding shouldn't be this complicated or challenging…should it? And that's when we start looking for the silver bullet that will fix the problem. We want to turn things around NOW a...