reclaiming your sexual agency after chronic objectification with dr. alexandra solomon

On this episode of the podcast, I sat down with licensed clinical psychologist, professor, speaker, author and retreat leader Dr. Alexandra Solomon to discuss how we can rediscover what a connection to the erotic looks like for ourselves and how to become more deeply grounded in pleasure - with or without a partner.THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF YOU HAVE EVER: ■ Felt so disconnected from your erotic nature that you’ve wondered if maybe you were asexual?■ Spent much of your life feeling like you’ve performed sexuality rather than actually enjoying sex for yourself?■Wanted to rip your own fingernails off when you see spiritual gurus on Instagram claiming to help you reconnect with your “divine feminine energy” if only you’d just drop $4k for their “healing course”? ■ Consistently faked orgasms to make sure your partner feels satisfied, while completely neglecting your own needs, leaving you feeling resentful of sex or dreading it as some kind of forced chore?IN THE FULL EPISODE, WE ALSO EXPLORE:■ The feeling of having a “sexual blockage”■ The experience of dissociating during sex■ Feeling like we have to “perform” sexually to land a partner■ Dr. Solomon’s view on what I call “the OnlyFans phenomenon” and “sex as self-harm”■ The impact hard-core porn on sites like PornHub is having on intimacy and how this is enforcing “problematic gendered scripts”RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Book | Reclaiming Pleasure by Holly RichmondBook | Come As You Are by Emily NagoskiPodcast | Pleasure MechanicsCONNECT WITH ALEXANDRA:https://dralexandrasolomon.com/Enjoyed this episode? Explore more as a Premium Submarine. Dive deep into hundreds of hours of exclusive content on Patreon, including my original BPD recovery series, guided meditations, and much more. Click here to preview the premium collections you’ll unlock access to for as little as a couple of cups of coffee a month. Learn more and join at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. acast+ https://plus.acast.com/s/back-from-the-borderline. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.