how scott broke the cycle of generational family trauma while parenting with emotion dysregulation

A while back, I received a voicemail from 67-year-old Scott Schaeffer – his story and experience struck such a profound cord that I reached out to him to see if he’d be interested in sharing more with the listeners of the podcast. What resulted was this episode – and one of the most incredible interviews I’ve done to date. With the help of a supportive and well-informed psychotherapist, Scott realized that he identified heavily with the traits of borderline personality disorder. As a child, he endured severe physical and emotional abuse at the hands of his father and struggled to reconcile his mother’s inability to protect him and his siblings. Through it all, he was able to nurture a decades-long healthy relationship with his wife and stop the cycle of abuse by parenting his daughter. Regardless of your age or gender, Scott’s story will inspire anyone who struggles with generational family trauma, emotion dysregulation, validation addiction, self-confidence issues, and a longing to find a solid sense of identity, meaning, and purpose in life. ↓ Want to unlock ALL my BPD-related episodes? Scroll to the bottom of this post for more info. ↓ ​Questions answered and topics discussed in this episode:■ How Scott realized he needed help (“everything felt like a conscious effort”)■ The empowerment that comes with having concrete terms to describe hard-to-explain patterns of behavior■ How BPD “splitting” (black-and-white or all-or-nothing thinking) can harm our relationships with ourselves and the people we love■ Validation addiction: how to stop being an approval addict■ The role childhood trauma and abuse play in the early development of BPD symptoms and traits■ How highly sensitive children in toxic and dysfunctional family systems are often “canaries in the coal mine.”■ Parents with BPD traits (parenting skills for mothers and fathers who identify with traits of borderline personality disorder)■ “Hurt people hurt people” – how generational trauma and abuse play out in family systems■ How Scott broke the cycle of generational trauma with his own family■ Why cis-gendered heterosexual males don’t often get diagnosed with BPD (how the medical model of mental health fails men with traits of borderline personality disorder) Connect with Scott at https://www.usadogbehavior.com/.Enjoyed this episode? Explore more as a Premium Submarine. Dive deep into hundreds of hours of exclusive content on Patreon, including my original BPD recovery series, guided meditations, and much more. Click here to preview the premium collections you’ll unlock access to for as little as a couple of cups of coffee a month. Learn more and join at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. acast+ https://plus.acast.com/s/back-from-the-borderline. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.