finding a sense of self as a trauma-dumping emotional vampire

It’s another listener Q&A-style episode of Back from the Borderline. First up, we’ll hear from Priyasha in Dubai, who has been struggling with understanding what it means to “find a sense of self” as she recovers from her struggles with emotion dysregulation that come along with her BPD diagnosis. We’ll explore the concept of “no-self” in Buddhism and how certain Buddhist concepts have found themselves into mainstream therapeutic modalities like DBT. Next, I take a voicemail from Allison, who feels like her family and friends are pulling away from her after her recent suicide attempts. We also hear from listener Gia, who is struggling with the concept of forgiveness and still feels triggered as an adult when she’s around her childhood caregivers. We tie things up with a voicemail from Fae, who keeps developing crushes on various friends while she’s in a serious, committed relationship.TIME STAMPS 00:00 – 03:34: Intro03:34: Response to listener voicemail from Priyasha in Dubai, who was impacted by my episode on the Buddhist concept of “annata” or “no self,” and shared how it helped her in her struggle for a sense of self in her recovery from emotion dysregulation.25:08: Voicemail from Allison, who feels like her friends and family are pulling away from her after her recent suicide attempts (topics explored: emotional vampires, the root cause of suicidal feelings, trauma-dumping, and oversharing.)52:17: Voicemail from Gia, who is struggling to forgive her caregivers who contributed to her ongoing struggles with emotion dysregulation in her adult life (topics explored: “magical thinking,” forgiveness, and “going back to the empty well.)01:13:26: Voicemail from Fae, who feels like she is developing crushes on new friends (“FPs”) while she’s in a committed relationship (topics explored: the “FP” or “favorite person” phenomenon in the BPD recovery community, the danger of objectifying others and relying on them for emotion regulation, and how to zoom out and be less dependent on the validation of others for our emotional stability.) Enjoyed this episode? Explore more as a Premium Submarine. Dive deep into hundreds of hours of ad-free exclusive content and full-length episodes on Patreon, including my original BPD recovery series, guided meditations, and much more. Click here to preview the premium collections you’ll unlock access to for as little as a couple of cups of coffee a month. Learn more and join at backfromtheborderline.com.The information contained in this podcast episode is for educational and entertainment purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for treatment or consultation with a licensed mental health professional. acast+ https://plus.acast.com/s/back-from-the-borderline. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.